As a birth mother who got to choose the adoptive parents for the little baby I gave up 22 years ago, I appreciate that those wonderful parents have good mental health.
I was naive and clueless back then about mood and personality disorders, let alone other mental health issues. I know more now and deal with it during my parenting of my two wonderful step daughters. I send angels with them when they are not with us and try not to worry all the time.
However, I didn't have to worry about that with the daughter I gave up for adoption. I knew she was in safe hands. I'm assuming that the adoption lawyer/agency did some pre-checks before offering them to me as a possibility. I hope so anyway. Either that, or I lucked out.
I'm just grateful that she has grown into a beautiful, wise, mentally healthy adult, thanks to her parents!
Whether you are a parent or not, I hope what I share here helps you find hope and tools that help us feel whole... Please pass this blog on to anyone you know that has experienced sadness, disappointment, trauma, abandonment, or anger in their past. What am I talking about: The more I get to parent, the more I realize how important it is for me to heal my own emotional baggage, so I can be an emotionally healthy example as we guide the next generation to be all that they can be.
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